Arlene and two adopted dogs.

Just a blog from someone who loves to communicate with other dog owners

Life’s lessons

Someone asked me did I mind getting old, ‘of course I do’ was my initial re-action, but then I gave it a bit of thought, and decided that it’s not so bad after all.

As I’ve aged, I’ve become kinder  and less critical of  myself. I’ve become my own friend.. 

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before  they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer  until 4 AM or sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 &70’s, and if I, at the same time, wish  to weep over a lost love .. I will. 

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with  abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set.

They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful.  But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I  eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not  break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody’s beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken  hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will  never know the joy of being imperfect. 

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have  my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever  etched into deep grooves on my face.
So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.
As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about  what other people think. I don’t question myself anymore..
I’ve even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I  like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever,
but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could  have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert  every single day(if I feel like it). 




Thank you for visiting and please come back, Arlene, Tango and Ruby


  1. I will try to grow old gracefully…but not sure that it will work too well! lol 🙂

  2. shall look forward to my old age now Arlene, I’m seeing it in a more positive light now… Haha

    • Perhaps like good wine we will get better Lady Jude, Thanks for coming and your comment.

  3. and it seems wisdom comes with age too Arlene, so many today have face lifts to take away the lines, to have a smoothness , but trouble is they look so bland, and scared, it’s the eyes which show the panic still as they try to hang on to youth. Why has aging become such a taboo word? Minute by minute we’re all getting older, no-one can halt the passage of time, so why try to turn back the clock, when you might end up breaking it?
    I love your heart felt words. Hugs, woofs and licks to you, Tango and Ruby. xPenx

    • I quite agree Pen, I have got quite used to this face ad will grow old[er] gracefully, and the thought of having needles or knives anywhere near my eyes just freaks me out. Besides what for? that knight in shining armour never showed up when I was looking at my best, so there’s not much chance when I’ve been nipped and tucked. LOL Thanks for dropping by Hugs from me and drools from T&RXX

  4. Wise words.

    • Thanks Anne, I obviously didn’t think them up all by myself, but, d’you know what? I could have. Hope all is OK with your family.

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